I know I haven’t written for a while, but hopefully now I will have some more time to do so. I’ve recently been watching a lot of Dr. Phil shows and it has given me inspiration for topics to write about. I just watched this one on infidelity, and there were a group of “other women” on the show. They were the single women who had affairs with married men, and one of them even wrote a book. Basically, they were making themselves out to be victims and saying that the situation causes THEM pain too, and that everyone looks at them badly. They kept saying “What about the husband, isn’t it his fault? It prompted a lot of responses from the audience and from viewers after the show.
I just feel like
venting offering my opinion. I think these women are ridiculous. I can’t believe they have the nerve to sit up there and say that it’s not their fault because THEY didn’t pursue the men. They say the blame is on the men because the MEN are the ones that cheat on their wives. The MEN are the ones who have taken vows and made the commitment. But guess what? Does that mean you do not have the capability of saying “no”?
It drives me insane how often people make excuses for their ridiculous behavior, and they come in all ages!
“He was the one that was calling me, so shouldn’t that be his fault.”
How about not answering the phone?
And then they had the nerve to say that there are behaviors wives can change that will stop their men from cheating. Maybe they aren’t putting out enough? Maybe they don’t dress nice? Maybe they’ve had kids and gained weight? These women were saying that wives can sometimes make it so the men don’t cheat.
It really makes me mad. Now, this is just the opinion of a 22-year old who still has a lot to experience in the world, but men, if you want to be with a lot of women, DON’T MAKE A COMMITMENT. And women, have some self-respect and some respect for a woman who’s MARRIED HUSBAND YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH and say NO! If you let a guy who wants to cheat with you, cheat with you, he’s GOING to do it. It’s (kind of) like giving drugs to an addict, but it’s the addicts fault because THEY were the ones who sought out the drugs.
Give me a break. It’s that simple, and I think these women should be called out for each and every excuse they make.
I’m curious, what do you guys think of this debate? Is there too much blame put on these women in society? Or are they just as much to blame for infidelity as the cheating men? Leave me a comment and share your thoughts!
*Disclaimer: I know that there are women who have affairs too, but the particular episode I saw focused on cheating men.